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People typically don't ask for help until they've tried to fix things on their own. We hope things will magically get better. Sometimes they do—for a little while. But by the time most couples seek counseling, they're already in crisis. Dr. Gottman says couples wait an average of seven years before seeking marriage counseling.

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Here's what the typical couple tells me:

"We've tried everything we can think of, but we keep having the same arguments."
"We really want to fix things, but we trigger each other—often without meaning to."
"We've stopped talking about certain things because we know where the conversation will end."
"Sometimes one of us just nods, says nothing, and then seemingly out of nowhere...explodes."

"We don't even know what happened, but we want to make things better. ANd we don't know how."

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The truth is, each person usually believes the other person is the problem. That's why they spend so much time trying to change each other instead of understanding what's really driving the conflict.

They believe the problem is communication, betrayal, intimacy, disrespect, or a personality flaw. Those things may contribute to the conflict.

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But very often, the real problem is hidden beneath the complaints. They just don't know where to look.​

By the time couples come for counseling, they're emotionally exhausted. They've tried everything they can think of—even other therapists, books, videos, and self-help—but they keep ending up in the same painful place.

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For more than 25 years, I've helped individuals and couples identify the hidden patterns that keep them stuck. Once you understand what's really driving the conflict, lasting change becomes much more possible.

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Are you ready to find out what's really driving the problem?

Schedule your fFREE 15 minute phone  consultation.